Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Overcoming Insecurities? Not Sure What To Do?

By Mr WebbyFied

Are you overcoming insecurities and unsure of what to do?

Well, first thing, stop being unsure!

When overcoming your insecurities, things may get really difficult, and it can make us even more overwhelmed and insecure than we were to begin! Sound like we're acting in vain here?

No, absolutely not.

When you are actively working on overcoming your insecurities, it's kind of like cleaning out a really, really nasty garage.

At the very beginning, you feel overwhelmed when you face what you have to clear out.

You start tossing stuff around (realizing your insecurities) and you begin feeling like there's no way you'll ever get through everything.

You feel like you should quit, but you keep on pushing.

Over time, things get even more messy than they ever were, and you feel like you're worse than you were before you started!

In reality, you are close to tossing out the trash (overcoming insecurities), and you just need a little more clearing out. You must give yourself time to sort out the rest of the trash, and put everything where it needs to be.

You notice you have a lot of amazing things hidden in that unnecessary debris and clutter, but it was all buried because you had not yet taken on the mission of overcoming your insecurities.

Overcoming insecurities will take you on a journey that will end in the place that you are at now.

But you'll be a better, more assured person.

The first step in overcoming your insecurities is acknowledging what the insecurities actually are.

Could it be that you don't think you're the type of person that deserves a good job?

Do you have trouble imagining that girl, or guy, being interested in someone like you?

What insecurities do you have to overcome before you can feel good about yourself?

Ask yourself that, and listen quietly for the answer. Don't worry. I can wait.

Once you acknowledge that insecurity, decide to yourself at that moment that you will be plowing right through it.

Overcoming insecurities is one thing, but facing it and acknowledging that it DOES NOT have any power over you is a force ten times stronger.

You won't need to do anything crazy, but you'll have to get uncomfortable at times.

If you are in a state of comfort, you aren't growing, and you are not overcoming those insecurities at all.

Overcoming insecurities is like a newborn taking their first few steps.

How many babies have you seen give up because they were uncomfortable walking their first time?

How many times do they fail before they actually succeed?

Too many right?

And still, they keep trying until they've got it down pat. Then they learn to speak. Then they learn. And then, they overcome insecurities.

Insecurities are a giant part of your ego.

Now, I don't like to think that the ego is a part of me.

I wonder if the ego is some sort of toxic by product of people that have yet to overcome their own insecurities, and they somehow whisper their foul suggestions to us.

What do I mean exactly?

Imagine that you desire a car. If you have a desire for that car because it is truly what YOU want, that is just you wanting a car.

If you want that car because "It'll be so damn cool," that's your ego.

If you want a person of the opposite sex, not because they are the most beautiful person, in your eyes, but because your friends will die when they see them, that's ego.

Overcoming insecurities isn't difficult, but it is still not easy.

It's like tossing out the debris that useless a-hole "Ego" left for you in your garage.

You'll sweat, you'll cuss, and it might be very uncomfortable at times, but you can do it.

That garbage isn't yours, so don't take ownership of it.

Take the Red Pill, and come see me in the morning.

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